My family doesn't respect me but expects me to respect them?

Well I know it sounds bratty but would you like to respect your dad if he made you do laundry at 11:00 at night? And if your sister stole your charger to your phone and nook both dead now bc she lost hers and won't give it back so Ihave no access to my phone or nook. And if your mom doesn't appreciate anything I do for her when I appreciate the stuff she does for me. I made her a cake on mother's day and thought she was going to love it but she was only focused on the "mess" it made which didn't look any different from the rest of the kitchen. And when you tell her you're ready to start more chores she nags you and says "You're so lazy". Really? I'm the most responsible, focused child they have in the house and the only one who has straight A's. We have 3 kids in the house in all. My mom pulled me out of public school where I was perfectly happy being there because my dumb sister was getting F's it's not my fault and so she homeschooled us. I'm not a homeschool kind of girl. I loved it and all but atleast be planned. She was not organized. I'm just really mad right now. I'm finally going into a school but it's a private school which is fine with me but she's all nagging me about spending money. Then why not put me back in FREE hello keyword FREE school. But I'm glad to be in private. It will be helpful. But why the heck is my family judging me when I get mad that they don't appreciate anything I do. I'm just a 40 year old man in the house in their imagination that has to work to have anything. In reality I'm a 12 year old girl.